Я думаю, вы должны использовать пивот:
select n.name,[0] as language_one,[1] as language_two,[2],[3] from
(select n.name,tl.language
tablename n
left join Table_Name_Lang tnl on n.userid=tnl.userid
left join table_language tl on tl.id=tnl.id
group by n.name,tl.language
)T
pivot
(
language
for name in [0],[1],[2],[3]
)AS PivotTable;