Вот более кроссплатформенное решение:
bool set_blocking_mode(int socket, bool is_blocking)
{
bool ret = true;
#ifdef WIN32
/// @note windows sockets are created in blocking mode by default
// currently on windows, there is no easy way to obtain the socket's current blocking mode since WSAIsBlocking was deprecated
u_long non_blocking = is_blocking ? 0 : 1;
ret = NO_ERROR == ioctlsocket(socket, FIONBIO, &non_blocking);
#else
const int flags = fcntl(socket, F_GETFL, 0);
if ((flags & O_NONBLOCK) && !is_blocking) { info("set_blocking_mode(): socket was already in non-blocking mode"); return ret; }
if (!(flags & O_NONBLOCK) && is_blocking) { info("set_blocking_mode(): socket was already in blocking mode"); return ret; }
ret = 0 == fcntl(socket, F_SETFL, is_blocking ? flags ^ O_NONBLOCK : flags | O_NONBLOCK));
#endif
return ret;
}