Вероятно, есть более эффективный и более гибкий способ, но два соединения подзапроса подойдут:
SELECT
recipe.*
FROM recipe
JOIN (SELECT recipe_id FROM ing_to_rep WHERE ingredient_id = 64) AS ing1 ON recipe.id = ing1.recipe_id
JOIN (SELECT recipe_id FROM ing_to_rep WHERE ingredient_id = 65) AS ing2 ON recipe.id = ing2.recipe_id
Также можно сделать с EXISTS
SELECT
recipe.*
FROM
recipe
WHERE
EXISTS (SELECT recipe_id FROM ing_to_rep ing1 WHERE ingredient_id = 64 AND recipe.id = ing1.recipe_id)
AND EXISTS (SELECT recipe_id FROM ing_to_rep ing2 WHERE ingredient_id = 65 AND recipe.id = ing2.recipe_id)