Попробуйте это:
con.Open();
SqlCommand cmd = new SqlCommand("If Not Exists(select * from stholidays where holiday='"+ dd + "') begin insert into stholidays values('" + dateTimePicker12.Text + "','" + dateTimePicker20.Text + "','" + dateTimePicker13.Text + "','" + mbk + "','" + dateTimePicker14.Text + "','" + dateTimePicker15.Text + "','" + lt + "','" + dateTimePicker16.Text + "','" + dateTimePicker17.Text + "','" + ebk + "','" + dateTimePicker18.Text + "','" + dateTimePicker19.Text + "','" + textBox105.Text + "','" + textBox106.Text + "','" + textBox107.Text + "','" + dd + "','" + textBox104.Text + "')end", con);
cmd.ExecuteNonQuery();
con.Close();