Я считаю, что вам нужно переопределить шаблон элемента управления по умолчанию для элемента меню.Поэтому я взял шаблон элемента управления по умолчанию и изменил его, удалив область значка из шаблона и применив его к элементу управления
<Window.Resources>
<ControlTemplate x:Key="MenuItemControlTemplate1" TargetType="{x:Type MenuItem}">
<Border x:Name="templateRoot" BorderBrush="{TemplateBinding BorderBrush}" BorderThickness="{TemplateBinding BorderThickness}" Background="{TemplateBinding Background}" SnapsToDevicePixels="True">
<Grid VerticalAlignment="Center">
<Grid.ColumnDefinitions>
<ColumnDefinition Width="Auto"/>
<ColumnDefinition Width="Auto"/>
</Grid.ColumnDefinitions>
<ContentPresenter x:Name="Icon" Content="{TemplateBinding Icon}" ContentSource="Icon" HorizontalAlignment="Center" Height="16" SnapsToDevicePixels="{TemplateBinding SnapsToDevicePixels}" VerticalAlignment="Center" Width="0"/>
<Path x:Name="GlyphPanel" Data="F1M10,1.2L4.7,9.1 4.5,9.1 0,5.2 1.3,3.5 4.3,6.1 8.3,0 10,1.2z" Fill="{TemplateBinding Foreground}" FlowDirection="LeftToRight" Visibility="Collapsed" VerticalAlignment="Center"/>
<ContentPresenter ContentTemplate="{TemplateBinding HeaderTemplate}" Content="{TemplateBinding Header}" Grid.Column="1" ContentStringFormat="{TemplateBinding HeaderStringFormat}" ContentSource="Header" Margin="{TemplateBinding Padding}" RecognizesAccessKey="True" SnapsToDevicePixels="{TemplateBinding SnapsToDevicePixels}"/>
<Popup x:Name="PART_Popup" AllowsTransparency="True" Focusable="False" IsOpen="{Binding IsSubmenuOpen, RelativeSource={RelativeSource TemplatedParent}}" PopupAnimation="{DynamicResource {x:Static SystemParameters.MenuPopupAnimationKey}}" Placement="Bottom">
<Border x:Name="SubMenuBorder" BorderBrush="#FF999999" BorderThickness="1" Padding="0" Background="#FFF0F0F0" Width="Auto" >
<ScrollViewer x:Name="SubMenuScrollViewer" Padding="0" Style="{DynamicResource {ComponentResourceKey ResourceId=MenuScrollViewer, TypeInTargetAssembly={x:Type FrameworkElement}}}">
<Grid RenderOptions.ClearTypeHint="Enabled">
<Canvas HorizontalAlignment="Left" Height="0" VerticalAlignment="Top" Width="0">
<Rectangle x:Name="OpaqueRect" Fill="{Binding Background, ElementName=SubMenuBorder}" Height="{Binding ActualHeight, ElementName=SubMenuBorder}" Width="{Binding ActualWidth, ElementName=SubMenuBorder}"/>
</Canvas>
<Rectangle Fill="#FFD7D7D7" HorizontalAlignment="Left" Width="1"/>
<ItemsPresenter x:Name="ItemsPresenter" KeyboardNavigation.DirectionalNavigation="Cycle" Grid.IsSharedSizeScope="True" SnapsToDevicePixels="{TemplateBinding SnapsToDevicePixels}" KeyboardNavigation.TabNavigation="Cycle"/>
</Grid>
</ScrollViewer>
</Border>
</Popup>
</Grid>
</Border>
<ControlTemplate.Triggers>
<Trigger Property="IsSuspendingPopupAnimation" Value="True">
<Setter Property="PopupAnimation" TargetName="PART_Popup" Value="None"/>
</Trigger>
<Trigger Property="Icon" Value="{x:Null}">
<Setter Property="Visibility" TargetName="Icon" Value="Collapsed"/>
</Trigger>
<Trigger Property="IsChecked" Value="True">
<Setter Property="Visibility" TargetName="GlyphPanel" Value="Visible"/>
<Setter Property="Visibility" TargetName="Icon" Value="Collapsed"/>
</Trigger>
<Trigger Property="IsHighlighted" Value="True">
<Setter Property="Background" TargetName="templateRoot" Value="#3D26A0DA"/>
<Setter Property="BorderBrush" TargetName="templateRoot" Value="#FF26A0DA"/>
</Trigger>
<Trigger Property="IsEnabled" Value="False">
<Setter Property="TextElement.Foreground" TargetName="templateRoot" Value="#FF707070"/>
<Setter Property="Fill" TargetName="GlyphPanel" Value="#FF707070"/>
</Trigger>
<Trigger Property="CanContentScroll" SourceName="SubMenuScrollViewer" Value="False">
<Setter Property="Canvas.Top" TargetName="OpaqueRect" Value="{Binding VerticalOffset, ElementName=SubMenuScrollViewer}"/>
<Setter Property="Canvas.Left" TargetName="OpaqueRect" Value="{Binding HorizontalOffset, ElementName=SubMenuScrollViewer}"/>
</Trigger>
</ControlTemplate.Triggers>
</ControlTemplate>
</Window.Resources>
. И код для пункта меню будет таким, как приведенный ниже
<DockPanel>
<Menu DockPanel.Dock="Top" >
<MenuItem Header="My Rectangle" Template="{DynamicResource MenuItemControlTemplate1}" >
<Rectangle Fill="Blue" Width="200" Height="30" Margin="-35,0,-50,0" Stroke="Black"/>
<Rectangle Fill="Red" Width="200" Height="30" Margin="-35,0,-50,0" Stroke="Black"/>
</MenuItem>
</Menu>
</DockPanel>
Как вы можете видеть, я применил поле для прямоугольника, если вы удалите его, то вы сможете увидеть отступы слева и справа.